How to Keep Cool When You Are Angry: 3 Easy Steps To Be The Winner Over A Bad Situation
Posted: Tuesday, February 23, 2010
by Fran Larson
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We've all done it. We are angry, frustrated and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are right. We certainly won't let anyone run over us. So in a fit of anger, we say or do something that makes us not only look bad but also by striking while angry, we don't give ourselves a chance to think what we need to do.
Anger is a strange thing. It seduces you into a moment of being unreasonable. It blinds you to clear thinking. At that moment you don't want to think what the outcome of your own retaliation will be.
1. Be aware that you are upset.
You know the signs your heart starts to pound, you feel like you're going to explode, you want to cry and scream, your body is tense.
2. Tell the person why you are angry.
Tell them that when you have cooled off a little, you want to talk to them about the disagreement.
3. Now you are in control of yourself. If the other person continues to be out of control, walk away.
This is sometimes really hard to do, but if the other person is unreasonable, the situation can become even more heated. Resist the urge to stay and "have it out" with them.
When you follow these steps, you now have the opportunity to use the anger energy to come up with a positive solution for the problem (if you have not already done so). This makes you a winner.
Also, by keeping your anger under control, you will not have to regret words that you cannot take back. There is an old Chinese Proverb that says " If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow."
Once the situation is over and you have come to an agreement or maybe an agreement to disagree, it is time to let the anger go.
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha
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Top-level comments on this article: (3 total)"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." Buddha.
I always loved that one! Thanks fran for a Great, helpful article. The next step is conquering anger at its root so that it doesn't come up in the first place, which is a little more difficult!Metta.......e
Or if all else fails you can punch em in the nose--just kidding--great advice and two great sayings I've never heard before. Very good article.
If you were able to control yourself and turned your back, still the other person kept on nagging and won't stop arguing, what do you do then? continue walking? You'll still need to let it all out, So what you should do I guess is go to a place wherein you're all alone and just shout and scream it all out or probably go to a gym and just tire yourself out on a punching bag.
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