How to Teach Your Child Compassion During Times of Natural Disasters
Posted: Wednesday, January 06, 2010
by Fran Larson
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A couple of years ago, Katrina happened. It is so easy to forget the sorrows of the victims when the media doesn't reflect the day to day recovery of many. This leads me to my little "Developing Compassion" story.
My seven year old granddaughter, Alayna had discussions in her first grade class about the plight of the Katrina victims (shortly after it happened). The discussion branched out to "how can we help?" This led to a collection of money in which the teacher had inspired participation of the children. Alayna begin to think about Katrina.
"Mommy, look, those people don't have any houses. The houses are all floating away! I want to do something." "What would you like to do, Alayna?" "I have some money saved in my piggy bank. Could I give some from my bank?"
"Yes, Alayna. How much would you like to give?" "All of it, Mommy. I want to give everything I have."
"OK, Alayna. It's your money. If you want to give it all, you have my permission." Alayna began to shake the coins out of her bank. She and my daughter counted the coins. It amounted to almost $100.00.
The participating children in Alayna's class were invited to be on television but Alayna did not want to do that. I guess she wants to be an anonymous giver. How does a child get to a place where they volunteer to give and do for others? Lets explore a few ideas.
1. Your child will do what he sees you do, so be pro-active in helping others.
We can talk and talk, but if your child sees you doing good for others, that is obviously the way they will learn.
I remember my Dad packing up boxes to give to others at Christmas, as well as other kind deeds. That picture will always remain in my mind. "Your children will see what you're all about by what you live rather than what you say." Wayne Dyer
2. Make your child aware that there is joy in giving.
We all know the feeling of giving is much more satisfying than "getting" something. Children will learn this also, if they are encouraged often to make something for Grandmother or give away one of their possessions.
3. Don't try to protect your child too much from the unfairness and reality of life.
You can take little baby steps towards this approach, depending on their age. Little by little you can let the child know that some people are hungry, disasters happen and it could happen to anyone. (Of course, you don't want to scare the child, just give a little dose at a time.
Perhaps you could play this John Lennon song for your child (here is an excerpt): Imagine no possessons, I wonder if you can, No need for greed or hunger, A brotherhood of man. Imagine all the people Sharing all the world. (you can find the other words on the internet)
In conclusion, your child is always watching you. You are the best teacher by what you do.
Teach your child the joy of living and don't protect him/her too much from the realities of lifel. Charles R. Swindoll said: "Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children."
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)What a wonderful spirit you have!
Good article Fran, I enjoyed reading it.
Children are watching and learning from us at an early age. Teach by example. Great advice Fran.
Fran,How true! This was an important subject and the story of your granddaughter, precious. You should be proud of that little girl because she obviously learned this from her parents, one of whom learned it from you.Thanks for sharing
Great article Ms. Larson I too believe the kids pay close attention to what the adults around them do. The best teacher shows the way!Thank you for your opinion and for reading my article.
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