How to Understand The Man In Your Life; 5 Tips For a Satisfying and Exciting Relationship
Posted: Saturday, January 02, 2010
by Fran Larson
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Understanding men is not an easy thing for women. Men probably feel the same way about us. There is a reason for that. A male brain has a tendency to be left-brained, while a female brain is active on both sides.
Men have 4 percent more brain cells than women, and about 100 grams more of brain tissue, but a woman has a larger corpus collusum. Because of this a woman can transfer data between the right and left hemisphere faster than men. Men tend to be more left brained, while women have greater access to both sides. Men Tend To Be Better At The following activities :
Men tend to be better at analyzing systems, while women tend to be better at reading the emotions of other people. Males tend to focus on mechanics. Often, boys are more willing to talk about their feelings if they are doing something physical, such as bouncing a ball. This is because mechanical activity stimulates a man's brain.
Activities which women can perform better Women can thus express their feelings better than men and have an increased ability to bond and be connected to others. The female brain gets 15% more blood flow than the male's, and women also have more speech centers in their brain than men do, making it easier for women to verbalize their feelings. (Cooperwiki.org)
From this information we know that women are better at expressing their feelings than men, now lets explore how we can understand and get along better with men.
1. When you are having a discussion with a man, remind him that you don't want him to "fix it"
You just are expressing yourself. Here is an example. Maybe you had a difficult day on the job. You express (in detail) all the events that happened. You pour out your heart. He immediately goes into the "analyzing mode" and spouts off things you can do to remedy the situation or else he may say, "what do you want me to do?" However, you have already addressed the problem and also you are not asking him to do anything. All you want to do is express your feelings.
2. If he seems irritable or unhappy, instead of snapping back, help him to express what is wrong.
Remember from the study, he has difficulty expressing his emotions. Since women are better at picking up on emotions than men, you can learn to "read" him when he is troubled.
3. Tell him that you appreciate him not just once, but keep telling him.
Men need to be appreciated. They need recognition. Also, if you can be the one to express this, soon he will be doing the same. Surprise him by cooking a special food that he likes or picking up an inexpensive "just because" gift
4. Look your best and work on being healthy.
If you need to lose weight, do it. If your hair needs coloring, why not? Dot on some lipstick, even if you are not going anywhere.
5. Let him do his own thing and you do yours.
Too much togetherness isn't good. Here is a quote from Kahlil Gibrn (The Prophet) that describes too much togetherness:
" Let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow ."
In summary, knowledge is power. Once you understand how the male brain works, and approach the relationship in a different way, you will reap the benefits. Even the journey to a better relationship is exciting, as you progress into an even more intimate level.
Steven Covey (American Leadership Expert b. 1932) said, " W e are not human beings on a spiritual journey, we are spiritual beings on a human journey."
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)Men are easy to grasp; women, however, should come equipped with an operator's manual!
Understanding men? Aren't we more complicated than women!? But its an intertesting article you have.
Don't get me started. Seriously, interesting article Fran. I'd actually figured some of these things out during my almost, twenty-five year marriage!
Interesting piece and where would we be without our differences? BORED.... GRIN, Marijo
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